Sex, Lies, and Videotape (1989)
James Spader: Graham
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Quotes
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Graham : I remember reading somewhere that men learn to love the person that they're attracted to, and that women become more and more attracted to the person that they love.
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Graham : You're right, I've got a lot of problems... But they belong to me.
Ann : You think they're yours, but they're not. Everybody that walks in that door becomes part of your problem. Anybody that comes in contact with you. I didn't want to be part of your problem, but I am. I'm leaving my husband, and maybe I would have anyway, but the fact is, is, I'm doing it now, and part of it's because of you. You've had an effect on my life.
Graham : This isn't supposed to happen. I've spent nine years structuring my life so this didn't happen.
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Ann : So let me see, you said, um, you said that I should never take advice from someone that I haven't had sex with, right... right?
Graham : Basically.
Ann : Right. And, uh, *we* haven't had sex...
[giggle]
Ann : right?
Graham : So...
Ann : So, I, I, I guess from your own advice, I shouldn't take your advice.
Graham : I wouldn't.
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John Mullany : I'm sorry?
Graham : No, it's just, I, you know, I just think - right now I have one key and everything I own is in the car, and I just... I like that, you know? I mean, I just, if I get an apartment, that two keys, if I... get a job, you know, I might have to open or close, that's more keys, you know, buy some stuff, I'm afraid it's gonna get ripped off, or something, and I get more keys, and I just, I, you know, I just like having the one key, it's clean.
Ann : You're not gonna worry in losing them, I always lose my keys, I hate that.
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Ann : My life is shit. It's just shit. Nothing's what I thought it was. John's a bastard. Let's make a videotape.
Graham : No, I... ahem... I don't think that's a good idea.
Ann : Why not?
Graham : Because I don't think it's a choice that you'd make in a normal frame of mind.
Ann : And what would you know about a normal frame of mind?
Graham : That's a good question.
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Cynthia : It's weird thinking about it now. The organ itself seemed like a, a separate thing, um, a separate entity to me. I mean, when he finally pulled it out, and I could look at it and touch it, I completely forgot that there was a guy attached to it. I remember literally being startled when the guy spoke to me.
Graham : What did he say?
Cynthia : He said my hand felt good.
Graham : Then what happened.
Cynthia : And then I started moving my hand - and then he stopped talkin'.
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Ann : I want to know why you are the way you are!
Graham : And I'm telling you it's not any one thing that I can point to and say "That's why!" It doesn't work that way with people who have problems, Ann, it's not that neat, it's not hat tidy! It's not a series of little boxes that you can line up and count. Things just don't happen that way.
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Cynthia : If Ann got freaked out by these, there must be something sexual: are these tapes of you having sex with these girls?
Graham : No, not exactly.
Cynthia : Well, either you are or your aren't; which is it?
Graham : Why don't you let me tape you?
Cynthia : Doing what?
Graham : Talking.
Cynthia : About what?
Graham : About sex... your sexual history, sexual preferences.
Cynthia : What makes you think I'd discuss that with you?
Graham : Nothing.
Cynthia : Hmm. And you just want to ask me questions?
Graham : I just want to ask you questions.
Cynthia : That's all.
Graham : That's all.
Cynthia : Is this how you get off or something? Taping women talking about their sexual experiences?
Graham : Yes.
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Cynthia : [entering Graham's apartment uninvited and unannounced] I'm Cynthia Bishop
Graham : [looking confused] Who?
Cynthia : [interrupting] I'm Ann Mullaney's sister
Graham : The extrovert
Cynthia : She musta been in a good mood when she said that; she usually calls me 'loud.'
Graham : She called you that too!
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Ann : So, all these are... are interviews, huh?
Graham : Uh, yes.
Ann : Can we watch one?
Graham : No, I'd - uh, no.
Ann : Why not?
Graham : Well, I... promised each of the subjects that no one would see the videotapes except for me.
Ann : What are the interviews about?
Graham : The interviews are about sex.
Ann : Sex? What about sex?
Graham : Everything about sex.
Ann : Like what?
Graham : What they've done. What they do. What they want to do; but, are afraid to ask for. What they wouldn't do even if asked.
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Cynthia : I was eight years old, and, um, Michael Green, who was also eight, asked if he could watch me take a pee... And I said he could if I could watch him take one, too. So we went to the woods behind my house. And I got this feeling he was chickenin' out cos he kept sayin' "Ladies first!" So I pulled down my little panties and urinated, and he ran away before I even finished.
Graham : Was it a topic of conversation between you after that?
Cynthia : No! He kind of avoided me for the rest of the summer, and then his family moved away... To Cleveland, actually.
Graham : What a shame. When did you finally see a penis?
Cynthia : When I was 14.
Graham : So, what'd you think? Was it what you expected it to be?
Cynthia : No. Not really. I - I didn't - I sort of pictured it - um - I didn't think it would have - veins or ridges or anything. I just thought it would be smooth like a test-tube.
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Graham : I'm impotent.
Ann : You're what?
Graham : Impotent.
Ann : You are?
Graham : Yeah, well, I can't - I can't get an erection - in the presence of another person. So, for all practical purposes, I'm impotent.
Ann : Does that bother you?
Graham : No.
Ann : Does it make you feel - self-conscious?
Graham : Um, not usually. No, yeah. Yeah, I'm self-conscious. Um, I'm not in the same way you are.
Ann : Me? Me, you think I'm self-conscious?
Graham : Well, I've been watching you. You know, I've been watching you. I've watched you eat, you know, I've watched you speak, I've watched you move, and I - I see somebody who is extremely aware of people looking at.
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Graham : So, are you here to - make me feel bad for making her feel bad?
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Graham : I don't have the slightest idea of who I am. And I'm supposed to be able to explain to you? And why? You tell me why? Why do I have to explain myself to you?
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Graham : One woman used up only 3 minutes, and another used three 2-hour tapes.
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Ann : You don't believe in therapy?
Graham : No, I - I, you know, I - I believe in it for some people. I - I don't know, it was silly for me. I was confused going in. So, I just - I formed my own theory that - you should never take advice from someone that doesn't know you intimately.
Ann : Oh, but, I'm - I know my therapist intimately.
Graham : Oh, you've had sex with your therapist.
Ann : No! No. No.
Graham : Oh, I'm sorry. That's what I meant.
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Graham : What is the most - unusual location you've ever masturbated in?
Girl on Tape : Well, um, one time I was flying from Los Angeles to, um, New York. And I was, you know, it was a really crowded flight and I was - I was sitting in the middle, you know, I didn't get a window, I didn't get an aisle. It was really funny and I was - I was just - I was bored. And my magazines were just boring and I think I had like a woman's magazine. There were - they touch on a lot of sexual issues and stuff like that. I was just thinking to myself, God, that's what I need. I need a little - something to take my mind off this trip. So, I was just, you know, just thinking away and then I just - I just did it on the plane. Just between these two people. I - nobody knew.
Graham : How were you able to not betray what was going on, to the people around you?
Girl on Tape : Well, you know, I have really strong muscles.
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Ann : What are these?
Graham : Those are videotapes.
Ann : I can see that. Of what?
Graham : It's a - personal project I've been working on.
Ann : What kind of personal project?
Graham : What?
Ann : What kind of personal project.
Graham : A personal project like anyone else's personal project. Mine's just a little more personal, I guess.