About soul mates

Many of us have felt at various times in our lives that we have found the soul mate we have been
looking for all our lives, so many of us wonder whether or not there are soul mates. My response
over the years has fluctuated with the people in my life making me feel closer to myself, or
farther away from myself. Energetically far or close, therefore many books have been written
about love, but no one can define what it really means to give yourself completely to a person. It
is about how you feel, what you think and what starts inside you… but also about what you
know. You can have more soul mates. If you are eager to find your half, that soul mate, find out
that everything depends on your stage of evolution. You can have a deep connection with several
people, and this happens when your actions are perfectly aligned with everything you think or
feel!

Everyone has a soul mate. most people make decisions based on fear or lack of trust, are content
with less or indulge in a relationship, just for the simple reason that they are not aware that they
can do more. It takes time and patience to find your happiness. If you feel ok with yourself in
your own loneliness, you will feel that you can be good with the different people you connect
with, the secret is to invest energetically in a person with whom you can connect on another
level.

An open heart will accept love in its life. Love will come into your life when you expect it the
least… I am sure you have heard this statement many, many times. And it is perfectly true! It all
has to do with the fact that when you focus a lot on your goals, the right person will be attracted
to your energy, which is why I say that there are more people who can be called your soul mate,
it is the energy that you attract. If you do not have much confidence in yourself, you will attract
around you energies as lost as your lost energy. If you are on your way, so will the energies
around you.

Love means spiritual evolution. Starting a new relationship just out of the desire to get married
and acquire material things is a misconception. Love means more than living together. It means
unity, understanding, harmony, communication, openness and spiritual evolution… because yes,
you need a partner to guide you, to be with you, to discover you as you are and to encourage you
to be yourself. With everything you bring with you.

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Soul mates have a deep connection. To be deep, a connection between two people takes time,
and you know that nothing can compare to a harmonious, clean and warm relationship. Meeting
the right person for you means traveling together in this beautiful life, evolving, growing,
understanding your true nature, and words are not always necessary.

Soul mates also have quarrels. Having a deep connection with someone does not mean that
everything is always wonderful, and this should not discourage you. No matter how much you
love and respect each other, there will be times when you face everyday situations, those daily
problems that can give you headaches. But all these things will not affect your relationship,
because together you can use the full potential you have and overcome any problem with a lot of
calm and understanding.

Soul mates love each other completely. He who accepts the invitation to come into your life, to
love and respect you, is able to fully love you, as you really are, with good and bad. Soul mates
love unconditionally, live to the fullest every moment spent together and celebrate their love
every day. They offer understanding and respect and nothing can shake their feelings, not even
the little whims…

Release the obstacles that block the path of the soul mate

I think you already know that some people appear in your life at the right time, because you
called them and because you had an open mind, full of warmth and love. And I think you already
know that the soul mate will come into your life only when you are ready to receive and accept
him. He will come when you expect less and he will be a completely different person from
everything you have met so far… because he will be like a reflection of yours, because he will
complete your thoughts and because everything will be connected naturally between you. It often
happens that we lose our soul mate because of situations that can hurt the other. You can
manipulate someone emotionally without realizing it. It happened to me in a previous
relationship, but it is not difficult for me to tell everything about that experience from which I
understand that although we can find our soul mate, this does not mean that someone will stay
with us regardless of our actions. Everything I did in that relationship, I did it primarily out of
love. But somehow I also thought that by doing beautiful things for that person, he would come
to love me so much that he would never want to leave me.

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I still remember that before a Christmas we spent together, he was going to leave town and did
not have time to decorate his Christmas tree. So I offered to help him. There is nothing out of the
ordinary here, anyone does that, but I could not help but think that if I did that, he would think I
was the best person and he would not leave me. Because my mind was feeding on this kind of
manipulative energy - "If I do this, then I will get this…" - even though I was not 100% aware of
it, it did not take long for that person to feel it. Because any energy that does not come 100%
from love will be felt by those with whom you are emotionally connected.

I also do not like to feel emotionally manipulated by those around me, so I can imagine how he
felt, seeing that almost everything I did for him had this energy attached. Now I always try to be
careful and to repeat myself constantly that no one owes me love, that beautiful gestures are not a
currency and must be made completely unconditionally.

I did not trust him. I was so in love that I was scared. I was afraid he would leave me. I did not
say anything if he did or said something I did not agree with, for fear of being abandoned. I made
sure that everything I said or did was perfect, but in doing so I was not completely myself around
him. I realized that this was a sign that I did not trust her to stay; that I did not trust myself that I
was good enough. Because of this I did not enjoy our relationship to the end and I was not
completely present in it. I was too busy imagining painful scenarios. Now I tell myself that as I
am, I am good enough for everyone. I trust that no matter what happens, I gave my best.

I made his life too easy. Because sometimes we love too much and so much, we feel we had to
constantly prove it. Whatever he needed, I was there to help. When he wanted to see me, I
completely changed my schedule to be with him. My priority was him and nothing else in my
life mattered as much. In addition, the more I did things for him to prove to him how wonderful I
was, the more he began to see me as his petal, who pampered him and made all his cravings.
Now I am trying to find compromises. I am no longer willing to sacrifice my life for someone's
sake. I no longer feel the need to prove anything to anyone, even less because I want to be loved

I had too high expectations- Once our relationship became serious, I began to have unrealistic
expectations from him, from how he should love me and how he should fulfill my desires. I
wanted him to prove me that he loved me and I was very upset when he did not do that. All these
things came from the fact that I was the one who did not love myself enough and did not take
enough care of my needs. I wanted him to convince me to love myself. Now I know how

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important it is to cherish, to love, to know that you deserve love exactly as you are, without the
need to hide or beautify anything.

"People think that a soul mate completes you perfectly and that is what everyone wants. But a
true soul mate is like a mirror, he is the person who shows you everything that pulls you back
and he is the person who puts you face to face with yourself so that you can change your life on
your own. Probably a true soul mate is the most important person you are given to meet in life,
because it shatters all your prejudices and forces you to wake up. But to live with a soul mate
forever? The soul mates come into your life just to show you another face of yours, then leave.
The role of the soul mate is to shake you, to dissolve your ego a little, to show you the obstacles
and addictions you have, to open your soul so that a new light can enter it. To bring you to
despair, to make you lose control so much as to make you change your life, to transform… ”-
Elizabeth Gilbert

We all believe that meeting the soul mate is a magical moment, with fireworks and butterflies in
the stomach. Guess what? It does not have to be that way. It is possible that you have already
met your soul mate. Just because you did not notice it does not mean it did not happen. Everyone
has one (or more) soul mate(s) and whether you look for it or not, it will still find you. You
cannot hide from your soul mate. Sometimes the amazing people in our lives go unnoticed for a
while. You can find your soul mate in a close friend or colleague. We all believe that meeting of
the soul mate is a magical moment, with fireworks and butterflies in the stomach. Guess what? It
does not have to be that way. You may have already met your soul mate. Just because you did
not notice it does not mean it did not happen.

Everyone has one (or more) soul mate(s) and whether you look for it or not, it will still find you.
You cannot hide from your soul mate. Sometimes the amazing people in our lives go unnoticed
for a while. You can find your soul mate in a close friend or colleague. When I realized who my
soul mate was, I realized that the following things are fulfilled and so should it be for you: you
support each other in every difficult moment, you can talk to him / her about anything, You tell
him every thought that grinds you, every secret. Around him you give up all masks and you are
yourself, you feel the connection between you, you learn new things from each other.

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You can see in that person's eyes love and admiration, you feel that you have known him / her
for a lifetime. You can't imagine your future without this person. You are always honest with
him / her in communication, even when the truth hurts. Time flies when you are together.
Communicate telepathically, and when you are together you can understand each other. You
inspire each other.

You may have thought that the phrase soul mates refers only to a person of the opposite sex, with
whom you have to share emotional experiences that bring you to a perfect agreement. Well, the
term soul mate doesn't always mean that. You will see further that the soul mate can also be a
sister or a brother, or a comrade or a person who completes you perfectly being exactly your
opposite (in the sense that it has exactly those qualities that complete your shortcomings - the
reciprocal being valid). The important thing is that, regardless of the situation, the spiritual
energies are in perfect agreement and so connected to each other that between the auras of the
two a bright arc of light is formed, a rainbow of energy that unites the two souls.

Another thing you need to know is that meeting a soul mate does not necessarily take place at the
beginning of life, and once met, this soul mate does not have to be with you all his life. So it is
important to know how to recognize him, so as not to miss him, and how you can, once you have
met him, keep him around for as long as possible. But keep in mind that even if he only
accompanies you for a few hours, his impact on you will be overwhelming. It will practically
change your life. It saves you in a moment of balance, it shows you the way, it watches over you.
How do you recognize him? A positive emotion and a strong sense of familiarity? This can be a
way. The repeated impression of deja-vu in all the contexts in which you intersect with it.

Communication with the soul mate is cursive, harmonious, as if you had always known each
other, as if you were meant to know each other, and often the words are superfluous, you
understand each other only with your eyes. The positive energy you feel coming from your soul
mate is often overwhelming. He does not make you suffer, does not cause you pain, does not
burden you, but shows you the lesson you have to learn, in the most natural way possible. If,
however, we feel certain obstacles or negative emotions, it is possible to confuse the soul mate
with a karmic relationship.

There are three categories of soul mates, each with distinct and unmistakable characteristics from
other people in your life.

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Types of perch souls

Soul mates comrades - are the people who help you reach a goal, to learn certain lessons, who
are with you in special situations, difficult, perhaps crucial; there are those who saved you in
extreme situations or who simply relieved your suffering when you thought nothing more could
be done. His support is always unconditional and comes when you feel an acute need for
affection, support and protection.

Twin soul mates - are those with whom you have had a special friendship over several lives.
Dating with a soul mate is like meeting an old friend you haven't seen in years. There are people
who fully understand you, because your souls are strongly attuned to the telepathic level. You
will help each other in many ways to learn and evolve together, and your friendship will grow
even stronger.

The soul mate twin flame - is unique and most important to us. You have spent many lives
together, full of love and care for one another, and the connection between you is deeply
spiritual. When you meet him again, in this life, you feel an immediate attraction, it's like you've
always known each other, it's like an electric current, passing through both at the same time.
Souls immediately recognize each other and remember the deep love that exists between them,
beyond time and space. It is your perfect half and together you will create an atmosphere of
magic that you have never felt with anyone else. This feeling is always reciprocal. It is said that
when you meet the soul mate twin flame, you find your mirror image of your soul, and together
you form a whole full of love and harmony.

Americans have found a more spicy name for this third category - twin flame.

Apparently, twin flame (or the twin soul as I translated it a bit uninspired) is a very rare variant
of meeting, which can only take place in the last life. This third category is a delicious mix
between the first two - it has the spectacular charge of the karmic relationship and the positive
connotation of the soul mate. A twin soul is not a compatible soul like the key in the frog, but
rather a perfectly symmetrical half, detached from the same divine spark at the beginning of the
world. This explains why it can only be encountered in the last life, to roundly complete the
cycle of a complete spirit on Earth.

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Although almost everywhere I read about it, this relationship is presented as the culmination of
love, I look closer to the first variety, the one with nabadai. Here's why: The relationship with the
soul mate is like looking in the mirror. Everything that needs to be solved, improved, faced in
you will make its nest in the twin soul. Brrrrr !!!

Elizabet Gilbert explains quite clearly the peculiarities of the twin soul despite the fact that she
calls it the wrong soul mate: 'a person who shows you everything that holds you back, a person
who moves your attention to your inside to show you what you need to change in your life. '

If your heart-shaped pupils have dilated, calm down! None of these three types of relationships is
necessarily a romantic one. Any of these three types of ‘special’ souls can come into our lives in
the form of a friend, a family member, a child and so on. It is important to accept it with an open
mind, to try to find its purpose in your life, to be prepared to learn the lessons that stand in your
way.

Your soul mate twin flame is, most of the time, of the opposite sex, but it can also be embodied
in a brother or sister (usually a twin). You may even look like each other, often with the same
features, especially around the eyes. The spiritual energies are in perfect agreement and so
connected to each other that between the auras of the two a bright arc of light is formed, a
rainbow of energy that unites the two souls.

You do not meet this unique soul mate in every life, because it can happen that everyone has to
learn a certain lesson, individually. But it is certain that by what you do you tend to come
together again, and your souls to evolve on a common spiritual path.

The most compatible soul mate. The romantic soul mate is someone, who is said to know him
from other lives and other times, we know him before he came here on Earth. He will
accompany you throughout this existence. Most spiritual people believe that they existed before
they were born, and that they know their soul mate from the Astral Plane, where we all come
from. Even if we want to be with the soul mate, the reality is that we often do not allow this
person to enter our lives for fear of being hurt.

The most compatible soul mate is understanding. He will love you completely. For starters, it is
good to realize that you will be safe with your soul mate. People have different tastes when it
comes to the appearance of others. For your soul mate you are beautiful enough and good

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enough. You met before incarnating in one body and you are made for each other. To meet your
partner, it is necessary to clean up from previous games with soul mates. Most people have been
in different relationships and those loves didn't end very well. The painful stories of the past can
block us from meeting the soul mate.

Why do we get into inappropriate relationships? Many of us are intuitive and visualize the
potential of others, that is, what they can become. But most of the time, people choose not to be
their best version. We fall in love with what these people might accomplish, not what they are.
We see the possibilities, but they will not always develop them.

The belief that it is difficult to approach a soul mate. In reality, when they meet:

• two soul mates feel that they have always known each other;

• live a pleasant feeling of familiarity;

• they will find that they have many things in common;

• finds that they have many things in common: they visited the same places and, perhaps, that
they once intersected, without interacting, etc.;

• understand each other by sight. Paired souls feel each other, beyond words;

• this person will consider you the love of his life;

• you will have similar moral and spiritual values;

• the relationship will not be without imperfections, but because there is love, you will be able to
face them.

It is not about a relationship without problems or easy, but you will grow together. Some people
expect to meet their soul the most compatible (romantic) pair, but they confuse souls with each
other.

Other types of soul mates:

1. A romantic soul mate is someone you know from other lives and other times.

He will support you to fulfill your mission in life. Question:

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- Is a person familiar to me but I don't feel sexual attraction? Is my soul mate?

2. A soul in the family of souls is your spiritual relative. Before the incarnation, we each had an
astral family. These are souls of the same energetic and spiritual level. Au d.p.d.v. of evolution,
the same degree. When you meet someone from your family of souls, you love him deeply and
very much, but you do not feel sexual attraction towards such people, because they are your
family. Families of souls travel together through time and play different roles to help each other.
When your romantic soul mate appears, the sexual component is present.

3. Karmic relationships. It is formed with people who put us in the situation of learning various
lessons, often, suffering being involved. Unresolved situations and old patterns of spiritual
evolution are coming into our lives.

5. Relationship with the soul mate partner. Why do we meet?

1. Spiritual evolution

The soul mate partner supports you, to fulfill your mission in life. Grow spiritually together and
make your contribution to the world.

2. To help you

3. What does partner soul mate mean? Partner soul mates are usually advanced spirits, and now
they are teachers for others. They are wonderfully compatible and work harmoniously. They
have common goals. If one has a major destiny, the other supports it, being a divine ally.

The other members of our group of souls (our family of souls) will have different tasks in
common. A spiritual associate, however, will participate in achieving beneficial effects on a
global scale. When two such beings meet, they generate an echo, changing the planet.

There is a certain age at which I am sure many of us have thought about the existence of these
soul mates, but more than proudly saying that you have found this soul mate, you need to know
what this means and how you can look. in depth this phenomenon. Have you ever met someone
with whom you felt a special connection, a positive emotion, and a strong sense of familiarity? If
so, then you may have known your soul mate. They can appear in our lives and accompany us
for a shorter or longer time, they can show us a way or save us in a borderline situation. They can

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stay for a few hours or a lifetime, but each time, the most important thing is that they have a
strong impact on us.

To understand exactly what I'm talking about and how everything works, you need to know that
communication with your soul mate is cursive, harmonious, as if you've always known each
other, as if you were meant to know each other, and often the words they are superfluous, you
understand each other only by sight. The positive energy you feel coming from your soul mate is
often overwhelming. He does not make you suffer, does not cause you pain, does not burden
you, but shows you the lesson you have to learn, in the most natural way possible. If, however,
we feel certain obstacles or negative emotions, it is possible to confuse the soul mate with a
karmic relationship. In these situations, we are talking about "karmic finds", ie two people who
have just met, who actually knew each other from other existences and have already experienced
other types of relationships together. Karmic finds or encounters - regardless of their nature -
exist to help us evolve spiritually, solving certain emotional or relational problems.

It is said of the soul mate that it does not necessarily have to be of the opposite sex, to be married
to him or to live a love story. He can be your brother, mother, grandfather or good friend. But the
impact with that person will be overwhelming, impossible to forget. To go into more detail I
want to tell you that there are three categories of soul mates, each with distinct and unmistakable
characteristics from other people in your life.

You will also need to know that you will not have the opportunity to meet this unique soul mate
in every life, because it may happen that everyone has to learn a certain lesson, individually. But
it is certain that by what you do you tend to come together again, and your souls to evolve on a
common spiritual path and at some point in another life to come across each other and
experience the same enormous joy of rediscovery.

Know that, even at the level of the soul, one can talk about unresolved issues. In many previous
lives, certain lessons remained unresolved or unlearned, some duties remained unfulfilled,
certain relationships were not consumed, and the soul felt an acute need to accomplish
something. Sometimes no one understands why you put so much passion and dedication into a
particular profession, cause or hobby. If you feel that you need to finish something or end a
situation or relationship with someone, then it is likely that some "doors" of the past have not
been closed very well. Everything that happens to us is part of a puzzle, and the "pieces" must be

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looked at as a whole, not separately, and when you start doing this you will be able to see the big
picture and understand better that every moment makes part of a whole and that your dear souls
will always find a way to be close to you in one form or another, now or maybe next time.

One of the most interesting legends about soul mates was born in antiquity. The ancients claimed
that in the beginning there was the androgynous man. He was neither a woman nor a man
because he was complete. Plato, in one of his works, entitled "The Banquet", describes in great
detail the story of the androgynous man.

The gods, at one point, made a strange, incomprehensible decision and turned the androgynous
man into the one he is today. In this way, souls were broken into two parts and man simply
became half. In this sense, the soul mate is nothing but half of your soul, which completes you
and brings you to the initial or primary hypostasis.

Paired souls and physical manifestation

In the article "Separation of the sexes" from the cycle "From the Akasha Chronicle", Rudolf
Steiner talks about the same primordial androgynous being. He says that the specific forms of
man and woman, in the course of evolution, arose from a single primordial form, when the
human being was neither man nor woman, but both at the same time. The human body was made
of soft, malleable matter, to which the soul could easily imprint its own laws.

In its essence, the soul has both characteristics, and the masculine ones - which are found in the
will part and the feminine ones - visible in the representation part, of the imagination.

With the increasing solidification of earthly matter, souls are forced to manifest physically only
one of the characteristics: male or female, thus appearing as men or women. The other,
complementary part of the soul - feminine, for men or masculine, for women - still remains in
the spiritual world and is used for the development of the soul, metamorphosing into the capacity
for thought. So with the separation of the sexes comes the emergence of thinking. We have as a
result human beings, with a part manifested on the physical plane - male or female - and with a
part remaining in the spiritual plane. In this unborn part, not yet born physically, the spiritual
hierarchies have laid down the germs of the Ego: the Higher Ego.

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And the search for the soul-mate towards the rediscovery of the primordial unity is the attempt to
reunite in the physical consciousness with the complement found in the spiritual world, with the
Higher Self. This endeavor, to become a whole again, is just the initiation and is presented as the
wedding between the purified human soul - the bride Sophia - and the Higher Self - the groom
Christ. This is the real meaning of searching for the soul mate.

Signs that you are soul mates

1. When they meet, two soul mates feel that they have always known each other.

2. You have a strong sense of deja-vu

3. They will have a pleasant sense of security.

4. You recognize his eyes.

5. They will find that they have many things in common.

6. You visited the same places, maybe you crossed paths without meeting each other.

7. They understand each other's eyes. Paired souls feel each other beyond words.

8. This person will treat you like the love of his life.

9. You have butterflies in your stomach.

10. You are afraid.

11. You will have similar moral and spiritual values.

12. The relationship will not be without flaws, but because there is love, you will be able to face
them.

Energy resonance

When two soul mates meet, there will be a moment of energy resonance. This connection is like
a vibrating impulse or energy. The heart always knows that something powerful is happening.
However, such a meeting does not automatically mean that you have to respond to them in a
certain way.

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The fate of all our meetings and relationships must be governed by our own rules. Both in terms
of the mental level and the standard of daily living. However, knowing that I met someone from
"the same place" is a very profound experience - one that people often have, but do not realize
where it comes from.

Such unification is in many ways as natural as the breath itself. Our destinies are always
intertwined, even if we are physically alone and feel alone. We are, with these individuals,
connected at the level of energy. And such a meeting is indeed a cause for joy, because it is a
beautiful illustration of the complexity of the spiritual universe, which, with incredible detail,
processes the place and calendar of the meeting of two souls or a group of friendly souls for the
better.

It doesn't matter where we live or how different we feel. These souls with whom we must be, at
least for a while, are always with us. Sometimes this physical separation serves as a catalyst. It
can take us in a new direction and much further on our path of destiny.

What does the future bring? The future of relationships based on spiritual understanding is one of
the ways of awareness of life. Sometimes this information can be very confusing. Most of the
time, the relationship with the soul mate is very difficult, but it is considered a test, which a soul
has to pass. At other times, such a relationship ends as lightning begins, but that was to be the
lesson of this life.

Are you an old soul? An old soul is the living testimony that life is dynamic and follows a well-
established cycle. When we refer to an old or old soul, we must think that it has experienced
other lives and is not on this planet for the first time. In an attempt to define what an old soul
means, we have chosen to present to you several obvious characteristics of it. Old souls exist and
even you can be one of them, if you meet the characteristics below.

1. Old souls do not need company If you have an old soul you have long come to the
conclusion that regardless of the circumstances, in this world we exist alone, live alone
and die just as alone.
2. 2. Knowledge is a necessity In general people learn as much as they need. It helps
knowledge to accomplish certain things in a field. An old soul needs knowledge in all
fields and the living fire of knowledge burns permanently in him.

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 3. 3. Spirituality The level of spirituality is higher than those around you. For an old soul,
spirituality means a way of life and not a necessity.
4. 4. Life is just a moment An old and evolved soul knows and feels that life is only a stage
in the cycle of evolution. He does not anchor himself too much in the idea that everything
happens here and now. There are other stages, beyond death.
5. 5. Material goods Material goods are not the reason for which he lives. They are as
ephemeral as everything around him. He relies mostly on the idea of being and not on
having.
6. 6. Alternative reality It is not about parallel worlds or universes from other dimensions,
but about the fact that an ancient soul knows that reality is a great illusion, in which
people live without being too conscious.

7. It does not find its place Since childhood, an old soul has not found its place in the
community or in society. It is not that he cannot integrate, but that he feels that he belongs to
a different world or simply to another place.

Bound souls are people who have met in another existence and have been bound by love
(passionate love, mother-child love, brotherly or friendly love), a deep love and full of altruism.
These are also called soul mates. When two connected souls meet, then it is a karmic meeting of
a positive type.

Unlike bound souls, a person can have only one soul mate. Between the soul mates there is a
strong yin-yang polarity and irresistible attraction, being a meeting between a man and a
woman that complement each other perfectly.

There can only be friendship between connected souls, there is no need for passion. Thus, the
relationship between two soul mates can be one of family, friendship, teacher-student,
collegiality or passionate love, depending on the case and of course the sex of the people
involved.

For example, children born as twins are considered to be soul mates, people who loved each
other so much in another existence that they wanted to incarnate together. They get along
very well and there is a special telepathic connection between two twin children.

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Telepathic experiences are worthy signs to consider that speak of the existence of a special,
deep and mysterious connection between two people, being the indication of a relationship
like sisters. People who think the same thing at the same time, accidentally say the same idea,
are people who are on a very similar vibrational frequency, having a telepathic connection.

Paired souls can appear in our lives and accompany us for a shorter or longer time, they can
show us a way or save us in a borderline situation. They can stay for a few hours or a
lifetime, but each time they have a strong impact on us.

Communication with the soul mate is cursive, harmonious, as if you have always known each
other, as if you were meant to know each other, and often words are superfluous, you
understand each other only with your eyes. The positive energy you feel coming from the
soul mate is, most of the time, overwhelming. He does not make you suffer, he does not
cause you pain, he does not burden you, but he shows you the lesson you have to learn, in the
most natural way possible. If, however, we feel certain obstacles or negative emotions, it is
possible to confuse the soul mate with a karmic relationship.

It is not necessary for the soul mate to be of the opposite sex, to be married to him, to live a
love story. He can be your brother, mother, grandfather or good friend. But the impact with
that person will be overwhelming, impossible to forget.

You do not meet this unique soul mate in every life, because it can happen that everyone has
to learn a certain lesson, individually. But it is certain that by what you do, you tend to come
together again, and your souls to evolve on a common spiritual path.

Sometimes, the relationship between soul mates is subjected to unjust, difficult, difficult
tests, meant to prove their love and helps them to develop spiritually. If they are destined to
be together in this life, nothing and no one can stop them from being together. If they come
together, the soul mates have an easy and beautiful life together. Certainly, destiny will easily
give them many opportunities and opportunities throughout life. I live with the feeling that
they have been blessed.

You manage to free yourself from the social "burdens" created by man (laws, rules) and you
feel happy next to each other even if you are of different religions or belong to different
societies and cultures.

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You can meet your soul mate at a difficult time in life (a loss, collapse, etc.), its role being to
help you heal. It can also happen to know your soul mate helped by other souls (relatives or
friends), in sacred places (church), unusual places, special events (weddings). You may meet
him in the place where you would have expected less, when you would have expected less.
But meeting soul mates is never pure chance or coincidence. The universe and external
forces are working to facilitate these meetings. Usually, these meetings are related to certain
circumstances, events or situations that have the role of emphasizing the will of destiny.

You are not expressly compatible, but you will complement each other. The soul mate brings
to light your most beautiful and good side and vice versa. Around him, you can really be
yourself, with your positive and negative parts exposed, without being afraid that you will be
abandoned, rejected or perceived as "less compatible". Together, release optimism, love,
beauty and harmony.

There are things you know about each other without being able to give them a logical
explanation. You have the feeling that he can see and understand certain aspects related to
you that you yourself cannot explain. Have you experienced the same dreams or had similar
dreams. It is possible that the soul mate appeared in your dreams and you recognize his face
and gestures when you meet him. The feeling of shame or embarrassment is non-existent
when you make love for the first time. The smell of your loved one's body seems familiar to
you.

There are no limitations or power games in this relationship: neither of them feels the need to
control, dominate or "edge" the other. "Feel" explainably when the other is in trouble or in
danger.

Jealousy never degenerates. There is no such thing as "too jealous" in your soul. Somewhere
in your soul, there is an unconditional trust in the love of the other. Even if you disagree on a
certain issue, you do not agree on an issue, even if you argue, you know that the upset is
temporary. In a strange way, sometimes disharmony can be mixed with a strong sense of
commitment, a sign that you have to "burn" certain debts from the past. However, the love
between you is genuine, it is not hindered by anything.

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 Become a unit, without losing your individual identities. Each needs the other in the
"necessary" amount, without becoming dependent on the other. It may happen that in some
aspects you are identical, but in other respects quite the opposite. You shouldn't be surprised.
Paired souls are first and foremost complementary, and these differences can be perceived as
"clues" to what you could learn from each other.

The conversations between you "flow". But, even when you are both silent, you feel a
pleasant feeling of comfort. You do not feel the need to fill the space between you with
empty words or talk.

You give to the other without caring if you will receive. You intuit the other's thoughts, being
able to even continue or complete the other's sentences. You understand his moods and
moods without telling you. Sometimes you feel what he is thinking, even if he is not near
you. The sexual act is not for you a purely physical act, but a sacred one through which you
manifest the unconditional love you feel for each other. Even when you touch lightly,
without sexual connotations, you feel that there is a mysterious connection between you.

Despite previous experiences or plausible reasons that prevent you from being together, you
still feel that you are made for each other and that you can overcome everything. You both
feel the urge to do positive things and serve humanity.

Despite the obsessive-compulsive impulses, I do not kill myself according to the classifications
of spiritual notions. Not because I would not melt after anything can be framed in a perfectly
symmetrical scheme, but because I intuit that we are given to understand the world beyond with
the mind here. Of course, just as it's up, it's down. Of course we were inspired from somewhere
in the building of our civilization. But I'm sure we can't see the similarities with our minds. I dare
to think, therefore, that the next classification can at any time suffer a twist that I cannot imagine
today. Until then, what I saw, what I lived, what I read - all made me believe that there are about
3 varieties of people that we can call, throughout life, ‘soul mate’.

• Karmic relationship

With the latter mind, you can recognize a karmic relationship from a great distance. It's the kind
of relationship that grinds you to the core. It is a destructive, obsessive, consumptive
relationship. As bad as it is, as strong as it is. It's the kind of relationship that old women say

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spells have been cast on. Sometimes, looking for a moment with clear eyes at the relationship,
you even wonder what the hell will hold you together. I have news for you: You will not get out
of this relationship until you both burn what karma you have to burn together. I went back to my
first boyfriend forever. In fact, over the years, my love life has been a continual return to him
with several failed attempts to start healthy relationships with others. It didn't even depend on my
will. The man was simply getting in my way, he was tripping over me on the street. We could
feel it before we saw it, we foresaw it through a million tingles and ringing in our ears, as if the
Universe was becoming denser around us.

Somehow, at one point, I resigned myself to the thought that I would love him forever. Only then
did I manage to untie the spell, get it off the pedestal and place it in the category of ‘ordinary’
people who no longer aroused my interest above average. It hasn't gotten in my way since then,
and it never crossed my mind, and it's hard for me to believe I'll ever deal with him again. Our
hourglass has finished (thank God!) The sand.

A karmic relationship is not a disaster. It is a chance that the Universe puts in your way to pay a
few policies, to equal some scores, to help you progress spiritually. It is, if you want, an exam
after which you get another accreditation. Take advantage of it! Take your exam with 10. Learn.
And move on to…

• Soul mate

Although the notion is super used for karmic relationships, in reality soul mates are rarely
categorized as such. And that's because drama is more noisy than happiness, and people who live
in karmic relationships often seek to declare that they have found a soul mate — probably out of
an acute need to justify why they are in an inappropriate relationship. During this time, the soul
mates, the real ones, live their love in the peace and intimacy of their own home. Crochet
marriages, bake children, live their lives in healthy relationships from which they can build
beautiful lives.

Probably the essential feature of soul mates is that they give us peace. They allow us to develop
spiritually, offer us the calm and balance necessary to grow - both in the relationship and as an
individual. Therefore, the relationship with the soul mate is the opposite of the karmic
relationship - it is constructive, peaceful, balanced.

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• The soul mate

What does mother's love have to do with choosing a life partner?

Most of us have the impression that we are choosing that life partner that could make us happy.
But in reality we fall in love with what is familiar to us, and these things are not always
equivalent. What does this "familiar" mean? To the way we lived the experience of love in
childhood, through the attachment relationship with the significant person in our life. As adults
we will feel attracted and enter into relationships with those people from whom we are most
likely to receive what we received when we were children. That is, the same kind of attention,
closeness, care, affection.

Surely you've heard statements like, "I don't know how I like only the people who make me
suffer," "How do I end up being abandoned every time?" I broke it before. ” And maybe even
more tragic. But it all makes sense if we look at the early connection between mother and child
and its characteristics.

This connection can be described as a psychological connection that creates pleasure in moments
of interaction and is soothing in difficult times (according to the theory of attachment developed
by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth). In other words, the mere presence of the mother and
feeding are only a small part of what the baby needs from the first hours of life. Physical
closeness (embracing), the constant and connected presence of the mother (ie that mother who
enters into symbiosis with her child, can recognize them and is willing to meet all their needs)
are crucial in the psychological development of the child. In this way, the child feels protected,
cared for and loved, and when the time comes to explore the world he can do so knowing that he
has the support and encouragement of the mother, who will be there for him, both physically and
emotionally.

Thus, a secure attachment is built, and the child who has become an adult has confidence in
himself, but also in others. He enters into quality relationships, he feels comfortable in intimacy,
but also in loneliness. He recognizes his own needs and has the ability to meet them, but at the
same time he understands the needs of others and is available to them.

In the couple's relationship, he trusts his partner, respects his limits and the need for space
without feeling betrayed or abandoned. In turn, he demands that his personal freedom and

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boundaries be respected. She is autonomous and feels valuable and capable in the relationship,
but also outside her. He can express his love sincerely and openly. He has the ability to offer
support to his partner and turns to him when he in turn needs help.

But what happens when the mother rejects the child and does not connect emotionally to his
needs? The so-called insecure-avoidant attachment develops, in which the child feels the
mother's unavailability and lives with the impression that there is something wrong with him,
that he does not deserve to be loved or supported. The solution he finds to get rid of this stressful
situation is to avoid the relationship itself, learning that you have to rely only on him. However,
avoiding the relationship and the apparent indifference do not solve the feelings of insecurity that
the child feels. So what you get is just a pseudo-independence, given the real need for
connection, which does not disappear.

Adults with such a style of attachment are emotionally distant and seek to maintain their
autonomy even in the couple's relationship. I despise addicts and see the need for closeness as
evidence of weakness. They don't really get involved in the relationship by saying that they are
not yet ready for a long-term commitment (even if they have been in a relationship for years).
They keep loopholes, are open to flirting and often sigh after their ex-partners. It is also the
situation of those who enter into relationships with people who are not emotionally available, ie
people who are already in other relationships or with whom it is clear that things would not
work. This ensures that the connection is maintained at a convenient level of involvement.

When the mother oscillates between being available to the child and ignoring him, the insecure-
ambivalent attachment develops, in which the child has managed to live the experience of
approaching the mother, but also the one of rejection. He thus becomes addicted to it and
constantly tries to guess what state he is in so that he can adapt properly. The ambivalence comes
from the fact that he feels rejection, but also the intense need to be close to his mother.

In adulthood, this style of attachment translates into the fear of not getting too close and at the
same time not to distance too much from others. The person they are looking for is also the
person they are afraid of could hurt them the most. They try to keep their emotions under control,
but without success, thus becoming unpredictable, especially when they feel that their
relationship could be in danger.

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In the couple's relationship they are not sure of the partner's availability, they doubt themselves
and seek acceptance and validation. They may cling to their partner as a savior and become
frustrated if their needs are not met. They confuse the acute need for emotional connection with
love and are willing to do anything to maintain a relationship with a partner, in which they
actually do not trust. If they feel rejected, they cling to their partner, if they become too close,
they feel suffocated. There is a constant concern for abandonment and the tendency to interpret
the independent actions of the other as evidence of lack of love.

The last style of attachment, the disorganized or disoriented one, is formed in the presence of a
mother who not only does not respond to the child's needs, but is also threatening. We are
considering mothers who, as a result of unhealed personal traumas, end up not being able to
connect emotionally and, in turn, physically or mentally abuse their own children. To cope with
fear, pain and helplessness, the child splits in turn, unable to find a strategy to meet their needs
and, at the same time, to feel safe.

Adults in this category have difficulty in emotional self-regulation and react unpredictably. Their
relationships are conflictual, they do not know how to offer affection and they do not respond
adequately to the partner's needs. Often, they turn into aggressors without empathy. They
perceive the world around them as threatening and have difficulty forming stable connections.

There are certainly many other nuances in the way each of us relates. But the more we become
aware of this personal style, the more we can begin to make it more flexible and adapt it to our
current needs.

Love is not just for special days "- Interview with Agnes Remalia Dragomir, psychotherapist

We are in the middle of the season to celebrate love, and when we see around us so much
consumerism associated with love, we wonder if this feeling is not for the weak, for the
vulnerable and becomes a frivolous subject. Does love end up losing its meaning precisely
because of days that are supposed to raise its prestige? How do we actually regain the prestige of
love? I talked to Agnes Remalia Dragomir, psychotherapist and from the discussion with her I
discovered that beyond words, there are facts, that "loving" is action, not only on special
occasions, but in the small things of life. Read about love today, but live it every day!

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Why do we need special days to feel loved and to confess our love? Maybe we need them
because we forgot what love is expressed daily, in action! Special days are beautiful, but love is
not just for special days. We can use them to do something special, it's normal, it's really good,
but if we wait to declare our love only on special days, then we should analyze ourselves and see
if we don't use this as an excuse.

Doesn't this way of manifesting love make us vulnerable to the other? I like the word
"vulnerability"! Why run away from vulnerability? Only weak people run away from it.
Vulnerability and love go hand in hand. Of course we are vulnerable when we love because we
attach ourselves to the other. We live in a society marked by consumerism ... that is why we
should live something else in a love relationship! In this way we have the opportunity to fulfill
ourselves differently.

When we say love, there is such a blink of an eyelid, a spark in the eye, a butterfly in the
stomach, many are ready to say that "love is everything in life," and then love falls into triviality,
into irony… And yet we can live without love? Here I feel obliged to make a difference between
"love" and "love". Falling in love is something that happens to you, but "loving" is action. Love
is everything if it is love, but love is not everything because it is fleeting and it is good not to be
the basis of a relationship. Falling in love is closely linked to obsession, sudden mood swings,
self-pity, insomnia, thoughtless, impulsive acts, headaches and even allergic reactions.

My opinion is that falling in love is pretty selfish. It brings you, the person you fell in love with,
benefits - you feel euphoric! When you say you are in love, you are actually saying that you have
met someone who can meet some of your needs… If we go from love to love, then we are
actually going from something we want for ourselves to something we want to give to the other!
In fact, we love those we offer, not those we ask for. The love without which one cannot live is
that covenant that can last forever.

And if you have gone from love to love, how can you make it last? The attention given daily
maintains the attachment between the two people. Many believe that after marriage everything is
resolved. That in fact after we get married we have only two options: we stay married no matter
how the relationship evolves or we divorce. In fact, it is not so… once married we need to get
involved in that relationship with more attention, dedication, care. Many people make great
sacrifices to earn a person and then do nothing to keep them close. Wrong! After you get

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married, don't stop making "small" gestures that show interest and desire to conquer the other.
You do them every day, just like at the beginning of the relationship and then the love lasts.

In an interview, Andrei Pleşu told about the philosopher Constantin Noica and how he defined
his ideal partner: "The ideal partner is the one who cares about your eternal destiny." Isn't that
too much? How about such a statement? It is clear that a partner influences your whole life, and
a partner who does not care about you is not a good partner for you. When I say whole life, I
mean life in its complexity, in various fields, but also in the very long-term perspective. How
you live, how you love and are loved today, affects your eternal destiny!

What is the most appropriate "gift" for a day of love celebration?

For those who are married, the best gift is to reevaluate their vow and give the partner the
attention he needs daily. For those who are not yet married, the best gift would be to buy some
books and study together based on them. Even to look for someone to go through a process of
premarital counseling, to form a strong, lasting covenant. Let each know himself, let him know
his personality, his family history, be well with himself and then well with his partner!

Strategies for strengthening the couple's relationship

Is there a recipe for success in romantic relationships? Hard to say given that each couple's
relationship is unique. The two partners contribute to the formation of the couple's relationship
with their own beliefs, needs, expectations and life experiences. But, in reality, beyond any
definition and beyond the differences between people, the functionality of the couple relationship
consists in the ability of partners to coexist, to adapt to each other, to draw comfortable
boundaries for each other, to communicate in a way constructive and enforce rules. Of course,
this sequence of characteristics does not exclude the main attributes: the authenticity of feelings,
honesty, spontaneity or mutual respect. All these general elements are essential in defining the
couple, but they are only a few starting points. HE and HER are the ones who, in the end,
through their particularities and decisions, will shape an ideal variant of the relationship between
them.

How can you help strengthen your relationship? Find out more about effective strategies.

SELF-ESTEEM

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Before you expect happiness, security, well-being from your partner, make sure that you can
offer all these things yourself. Appreciating and loving yourself is part of a fundamental process
of existence, which will allow you to love in a more honest and profound way. The way you take
care of yourself is related to the way you perceive yourself and what you transmit, voluntarily or
involuntarily about yourself. A healthy couple relationship begins with two emotionally balanced
adults. Your partner reflects in his behavior what you think you deserve. Remember, first of all,
the responsibility you have towards yourself and "be good to yourself, give meaning to your
life." (Ursula Yvonne Sandner).

SOCIAL SUPPORT

Studies show that positive support provided to the partner during times of stress can help him
effectively overcome the stressful situation and minimize unwanted effects. It is desirable,
therefore, to renounce negativity by removing punitive or reproachful manifestations. The
partner is in most cases, the first person to be asked for support in difficult times. The benefits of
a supportive relationship (eg, long-term satisfying interactions, a sense of self-efficacy, high self-
esteem) and the side effects of one without support (eg, deep loneliness, resentment, and
insecurity) are real and important. to be considered. A position of empathy and active obedience
to the partner will secure him and give him fresh strength to engage in battle.

PYGMALION EFFECT

A phenomenon carefully researched in psychology, the effect of Pygmalion, Rosenthal

(according to the American psychologist of the same name) or the expectation of place when a
belief (positive or negative) of one person about another person leads to the behavior of the
second in a way which confirms the faith of the former. Let's take the example of people A and B
to better understand this effect. To think about his new colleague B that he is unfriendly, as a
result will have a reserved attitude towards him. Consequently, B's answer will be a similar one.
The belief of person A will therefore be confirmed by the behavior of person B. Is B really an
unfriendly person? Probably not, but what A's behavior mirrors in B is exactly what A wants to
believe about B. How can we see the consequences of this effect in the couple's relationship? By
using an unconditional positive attitude towards your partner ("I know you can" / "I trust you to
succeed"), this will not only make you feel better, but will help you perform better. .

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PRACTICING FORGIVENESS

Forgiveness is an essential component of a successful romantic relationship. In fact, the ability to

seek and offer forgiveness is one of the factors that contribute to the satisfaction of the couple's
relationship and to cultivating a sense of security. Forgiving yourself and being able to forgive is
about understanding that you are vulnerable, but willing to step out of the role of victim and take
control of your life. It is important to understand that forgiveness is not a sign of weakness, but
an effective weapon in healing and evolution. Responding in this way can have extremely
positive effects. Through forgiveness, the partners give up the walls (anger, frustration, threat)
they have built between themselves and become a team again.

A common dream holds you together

10 years after the wedding, Tina discovered that love for her husband Beni is not enough to
sustain happiness in their family. When they got married, they were young, both under the age of
25, and they didn't get along very well after college and their first job when they decided to get
married. Beni was attracted by her ease, her independent spirit and the fact that she was not
pretentious. Tina was completely in love with his charm, good service, kindness and devotion.
However, in recent years, the two have faced strange situations, in which family life has become
frustrating, cold and even tense. Everyone has a demanding service, managerial responsibilities,
they do not lack finances and juggle skillfully between work-family-children-social life and
personal development. But the time spent together, the intimacy and the romance have
evaporated a bit since the children arrived, although they had life experiences that made them
dependent on each other and negotiate for hours to solve some problems. But now they have
everything they need, they are financially prosperous, they are everything they want to be, and
yet ... they are missing something!

What they may be missing is what Dr. John Gottman, a famous family psychotherapist in the
United States, calls "common sense." A successful marriage is more than raising children, paying
bills and checking household chores. A successful marriage means building a meaningful
relationship that has a spiritual dimension and is rich in bonding rituals. Looking at the couples
at the beginning, we see that most of them pay attention to feel good, to have fun, to reach a
certain comfort, but the pleasure can be temporary. That is why a common sense is needed,
which, for a longer period, will support the connection between the two.

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Here are three steps by which couples can build a stronger relationship with a "common sense" at
the center:

1. Sharing a common dream or a common vision of life can help to achieve a healthy
perspective. When couples have that "common dream", the inevitable ups and downs of marriage
are less annoying. Creating a broader context of meaning in life can help couples avoid focusing
only on the little things that happen and keep their eyes on the big picture.

2. By giving time for sharing and building dreams, an atmosphere is created that encourages each
person to speak honestly about their beliefs. Couples who talk about their hopes and dreams are
happier. Creating connection rituals allows the couple to build common sense. That is why it
takes a time set aside, for the two to be alone, to do pleasant activities together and to relax.

3. And last but not least, the implementation of common goals helps the couple to become
stronger with a purpose. The goals set could include volunteering in the community, educating
children in a specific way, adopting a sustainable lifestyle, increasing the level of physical and
mental comfort.

Tina and Beni understood in time that having everything they want, that achieving a certain level
of intimacy and financial achievement is not the culmination of their family. They need more,
day in, day out, month after year. Plans, common goals, dreams created together and working to
achieve them mean a level of intimacy, a high degree of knowledge and finally ... the success of
being a happy, long-term family.

What does your family have in common?

Make friends with the person you want to love! We lead our existence in a social amalgam that
facilitates the expansion of the groups of friends, acquaintances and associates that we meet in
different circumstances. But this apparent privilege comes with a tailor-made bill, and as our
relationships become prolific, their depth is stunted by the haste with which we rush to reach that
level of intimacy that only a long-term investment can provide.

Often the romantic life suffers the most because of this accelerated process of knowledge, which
allows us to filter the virtual life without adjusting the true identity. All you have to do is like,
click, leave a message you thought of for 5 minutes before sending it, say a random "Hello", and

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then a real story can begin. The reason for the reverse pyramid No, you're not the first boy to
hold my hand, and no, you're not the first girl I kiss! You're not the first boy I say "I love you"
and you're not the first girl I bring flowers to. I'm sorry, but you're not the first boy I let my soul
and body know, and no, you're not the first girl I hold in my arms as I let my hands go down. The
sentimental singularity has become almost non-existent in a century in which relationships can
be initiated at every step, in which the media and social networking sites make this process so
easily accessible ... and yet ... why do they break up so many couples, why are there so many
devotees, single mothers, and suffering hearts when the world we live in gives us all the "tools"
to find the right partner?

Personally, I had to go through many experiences like this to find the answer I was looking for,
to come to understand why we are so dysfunctional when it comes to love. All because of the
"inverted pyramid" syndrome. We advance intimate knowledge without making a previous
friendship. We are too early in the romantic process, without cementing a simple friendship,
without filters, without dodges, without facades. When a boy and a girl are friends before they
become a couple, knowledge takes place at the most sincere and personal level, when we do not
load the time spent with touch and holding hands, but with conversations, laughter and memories
that then converge. to an authentic knowledge of the one next to us.

Butterflies live only one day It is said that butterflies live only one day on earth; the same is true
in a purely romantic relationship. Endorphins, dopamine, all diminish over time, and a couple
who have not established a stable friendship will have nothing left when the romance syndrome
is over. Too many couples start an intimate relationship without having a friendship. It is normal
that when we go out on dates we will get the best books out of our sleeves in terms of clothing,
behavior, manners, and when they start to dissipate we find ourselves in the arms of a stranger
without the ability to recognize him in the charming man. and elegant from the start.

True Story. On my trip to Vietnam I had to make an 8-hour stopover in Doha, time I spent with a
nice and very open old man. It's amazing how much two people can talk in a few hours! While I
was sharing a pizza, he began to tell me about his married life: “I was married for about 30 years.
I was 29 when I got married and even then it seemed very early. Some time after my marriage, I
moved to the Philippines for business, where my two children were born. As time went on, I felt

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like I was living with a person I no longer knew. She had changed, I had changed, and one day I
thought I couldn't go on like this, so we had to go our separate ways. "

After a short pause, in which he seemed to see the whole story unfold before his eyes, he added:
"My wife and I have never been friends!"

His story stayed with me long after we met. From a few simple phrases I understood the essence
of love and a successful relationship. There are words that can completely change our vision of
the world and the way we perceive the reality of life. Thanks to him I wrote this article and I
wanted to share these thoughts with you. But the most important thought is this: Make friends
with the person you want to love!

Unconditional love begins with you. It is said that a little boy used to come and play under a tree
every day, and the tree got used to him and began to love him. What is big and old can fall in
love with what is small and young, provided it is not attached to the idea that he is big and the
other small. The tree didn't have that idea, so he fell in love with the boy.

The branches of the tree were very tall, but he bent down so that the boy could touch them, to
caress his flowers and to pick his fruits. The boy grew up. Sometimes he slept at the foot of the
tree, other times he ate its fruit, or wore a woven wreath of its flowers. He felt then as if he were
the king of the forest. The flowers of love always make you feel like a king, while the thorns of
the ego make you feel miserable. Seeing the boy wearing a wreath of his flowers, the tree felt
happy. She encouraged him with the branches; he sang in the wind. The boy grew older. He
began to climb the tree, swaying on its branches. Whenever he rested on them, the tree felt
happy. Love is always happy when someone else leans on it. Time passed, and the boy began to
be burdened with other duties. He had his ambitions. He had to pass some exams, do his
friends… That's why he started coming to the tree less and less. But he was waiting for him with
growing impatience, shouting from the depths of his soul: "come, come, I am waiting for you!"

When the boy did not come, the tree felt sad. The only sadness that love feels is that of not being
able to share with someone else, of not being able to give. When she can give herself completely,
love is happy.

The boy grew up, and the days when he visited the tree were fewer and fewer. Everyone who
grows up in the world of ambition finds less and less time for love. The boy became ambitious

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and caught up in his worldly affairs. "What tree?" Why should you visit him? ” One day, as he
was passing by, the tree shouted at him, “Hey! I wait for you every day, but you don't come to
me anymore ". The boy replied, "What can you offer me so I can come and see you?" I want
money. But I could only come if you had something to offer. Otherwise, I don't see why I should
do it. "

Now all that remained of the tree was the root, but he continued to wait patiently for the return of
his beloved. Love… .how to know, understand and experience love? Let's see what the Creator
of love says. What does the Bible say about love? He describes her as long-suffering, "full of
kindness, not jealous, not boasting, not proud, not behaving inappropriately, not seeking her own
benefit, not angry, not thinking evil, not enjoying iniquity, but he enjoys the truth,

There is a legend that says that soul mates once lived such a strong love, so pure… ..that if they
are destined to meet again in the present life, their deep love representing a continuation of the
love of that time.

The soul mates meet at a critical moment of their existence, finding them with the aim of
continuing the spiritual evolution. The meeting of the soul mate determines not only sexual
physical attraction, but an emotion, a deep experience, beyond written and unwritten laws, the
longing can be huge, the separation even for a moment can be unbearable.

Many people believe that they have found their soul mate, not really knowing what this entails.
When you meet your soul mate, you live through him and he through you… you no longer
belong to yourself, reaching to form a single physical and spiritual body. When he is next to you,
you feel as if you have embraced the whole universe, like an inner fire that burns incessantly,
you feel immortal and infinite love. The meeting of the soul mate is the divine touch. Everything
becomes immeasurable, there are no barriers for your love, there is no time and no space…
There are few who have this chance… .and usually it rarely happens to stay together, most of the
time, the soul mates are permanently separated in the moment they fulfill their purpose for which
they met again… .even if in those moments of recovery everything seems to last forever….

The meetings between two soul mates are planned by a divine power, according to Mita Bhan, a
medium and expert in occult sciences. So, you will not meet your soul mate when you want.

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"Soul mates usually meet in a moment of wandering, when both seek healing. It can be a
sentimental loss, a suffering in love. "

Therefore, the soul mate will always appear at the right time and place!

The moment you meet, you have a strong sense of familiarity, as if you had known each other for
a lifetime. Instantly, a deep, inexplicable connection is installed, which transcends physical
attraction, and the signals that you will form a perfect couple are growing.

1. More and more things in common bring you together.

2. Synchronize yourself in situations, minutes or words.

3. All kinds of separate meetings have you in the setting who through others you keep meeting.

4. Although you avoid, you cannot control and your relationship is connected.

5. Near the soul mate, you can be yourself, you can manifest, you feel free.

6. The soul mate always manages to make you better.

7. Even if you are proud and proud, in the company of the soul mate this attitude of pride and
superiority is replaced by humility and unconditional understanding.

8. There are things you know about each other without being able to give them a logical
explanation. You have the feeling that he can see and understand certain aspects related to you
that you yourself cannot explain.

9. The feeling of shame or embarrassment is non-existent when you make love for the first time.
The smell of your loved one's body seems familiar to you.

10. "Feel" explicably when the other is in trouble or in danger.

11. Jealousy never degenerates. There is no such thing as "too jealous" in your soul. Somewhere
in your soul, there is an unconditional trust in the love of the other.

12. The conversations between you "flow". But, even when you are both silent, you feel a
pleasant feeling of comfort. You do not feel the need to fill the space between you with empty
words or talk.

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13. Give to the other without caring if you will receive.

14. Looking back, in the past, you have the impression that everything that has happened to you
so far has happened to prepare you for the present moment.

15. Your past has certain similarities. You may have the same emotional "burdens", have
suffered the same amount in the past, or have similar emotional wounds.

For soul mates, nothing is impossible, because they are not only very confident, but also have the
immediate, strong and steady support of their beloved partner - which helps them reach their goal
faster. Each partner is absolutely free to choose their own path in life. The joy you feel when you
embrace your soul mate is divine.

The love you feel in your heart, in an inexplicable way, is sometimes the best indicator that you
have already met your soul mate.

The soul mate is the person we say has something special and makes our heart beat faster, or to
whom we feel a magnetic and inexplicable attraction. Spiritually, the soul mate is a person we
have loved in another life. There are many soul mates for every human being on earth, but not all
of them are compatible in this life. One thing is for sure, our heart will remember them and love
them.

Paired souls are part of the Creator's divine plan for the evolution of the earth.

The energy changes and spiritual development that are currently manifesting in the world help us
to begin to love ourselves. Only when we can love ourselves unconditionally are we ready to
meet a soul mate. And that's because this soul mate can make us happy or disturb us. If we have
not come to love one another truly and unconditionally, a relationship with a soul mate can be
tantamount to "putting spirit on the wound."

At the energy level, when we begin to love ourselves, in the energy center of the heart (heart
chakra, located in the middle of the chest) there is a strong energy, and it activates the energy
center of sexuality (sacral chakra, located in the middle of the lower abdomen) . Thus, we can
call our soul mate. As a consequence of this process, we will notice that various people come to
us who are attracted to this energy, but not all those attracted are soul mates.

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The more we are free from resentment, the purer and more balanced in terms of energy, the more
we will be able to attract the right person to travel with in this life. When a couple is made up of
compatible soul mates, both partners evolve together.

When you want to meet your soul mate, it is necessary to be aware of some aspects related to the
spiritual part of life:

• A person can have several soul mates (even over 10), of different ages;

• You must love yourself before calling your soul mate;

• The intensity of the emotions that catalyze your desire to find your soul mate will dictate which
soul mate you will attract;

• People are attracted to each other, both by the positive and negative aspects, which they have in
common. The more negative beliefs you remove from your mind, the more wounds you heal
from your being, the more you will attract the right person for you;

• When you begin to manifest for the most compatible soul for you, you will attract other people,
because the energy center of sexuality is open (being activated by the energy center of the heart).
In other words, "emit love through every pore"; It is necessary to know clearly what qualities you
want the soul mate to have that are most compatible with you and thus the difficulty in
recognizing him among all those who come to you will disappear;

• Sometimes, when you meet your soul mate, small bumps can appear, but around it you will
always feel that you are floating;

• Wish your soul mate the most compatible with you.

Following therapy sessions on this topic, I noticed some key beliefs and programs that prevent a
person from being "visible" to the soul mate most compatible with it:

• Love makes you suffer;

• I don't think anyone can love me;

• I don't know how to receive love from another person;

• I don't know how love feels;

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• All men cheat;

• All women use men;

• I am predestined to be left alone.

• I am pretentious / pretentious and it is difficult to find someone as I want

Having such programs in the subconscious, everything that will manifest in your reality will
prove them: you will suffer in a love relationship; no one appears; you will not receive love; you
will find a partner who will deceive you; you will meet women who will use you, etc.

Be aware and recognize: the subconscious will bring into your reality everything you said or in
other words, the point of view creates your reality!

Another common program is to be generous all the time. These people want to attract to them
soul mates who take from the relationship more than they give. So, pay attention to generosity!
Learn to receive and give equally and thus you will attract the most compatible soul mate for
you, who will love you as much as you love him.

If you are looking for this soul it is necessary to know:

• There is the soul mate and, most likely, he is looking for you;

• It is possible and worthwhile to find the soul mate most compatible for you in this life.

ThetaHealing® therapy comes to help you with this wonderful branch: "Soul mates". As a
technique, it involves:

• Identifying key beliefs and replacing them.

• Energetic discharges of feelings such as love, joy, acceptance, forgiveness, etc.

• Opening energy centers.

• Healing the wounded soul and increasing the energy level of the soul.

• Reunification of the soul.

• Energy divorces from past and sometimes unfinished relationships at the energy level even if
there is physical separation.

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• Cleaning of oaths, contracts, commitments, etc. from other lives that prevent you from having a
relationship in this life.

When you are still thinking about your ex-husband after divorce, or your ex-boyfriend after a
breakup, it means that part of your soul has remained there or part of that person's soul has
remained with you. Thus, you continue to give or take from your or his personal strength. These
are energy leaks that are not beneficial to any of the people involved. The emphasis in therapy is
on these aspects:

• Energetic divorce from past relationships.

• Release of oaths and covenants from other lives and from this life. I was surprised to see how
many people have such vows in this life, made in moments of suffering and more. If they are not
released, they block a possible relationship with a soul mate.

• Manifestation and calling of the soul the most compatible pair.

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