house is a girl you have to take care of her
the house. a house. your house. building. residence. abode. not that faggot from the tv show
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house is a girl you have to take care of her
the house. a house. your house. building. residence. abode. not that faggot from the tv show
Barney, you're gonna have to stop screwing around if you wanna be Robin's boyfriend.
so women are supposed to grin and bear the books, the comics, the movies, the plays, the tv shows, the stories, the sci-fi, the translated ancient poems, the fucking millennia of men writing about their self inserts torturing women and it being declared as High Art by other men, we’re supposed to read it in our free time, study it in classrooms, include their styles in our own writing, accept their cultural influence as natural, watch it in the cinema, write about it, talk about it, accept it, aspire it, but men can’t tolerate three seconds of female wish fulfilment of a woman snapping the wrist of a creep without feeling personally kicked in the balls.
This reminds me of something I observed in college while I was doing my honors thesis on women in modern horror films. I watched a LOT of horror during that time as part of my research, and sometimes that was done with my family around.
And my dad and brothers? Were deeply disturbed by the movie Jennifer’s Body. I was flabbergasted. It’s not scary! It’s not even that gory. But they were horrified by it. These men who grew up on 70s slashers were legitimately shook by 90 minutes of Megan Fox eating a few teenage boys, mostly off-screen.
Similarly, my all-male reading panel for my thesis? Were so disturbed by my synopsis of the film Teeth that they couldn’t even talk about it. One of them said he couldn’t look at his wife for a week after reading it.
Again, grown-ass men who study and teach media for a living. Who definitely watch and enjoy horror movies. One of whom was a huge Tarantino buff. We watched and read worse in his intro to mass media class! But one movie about a girl whose vag could bite was enough to haunt him.
Then of course you have things like the Gone Girl backlash–men yelling that Amy Dunne is evil and women clamoring to assure everyone that they know she is not someone to emulate–the backlash against Carol Danvers, and, more recently, the griping from MRAs against the upcoming film Hustlers, which is about strippers scamming their Wall Street clients.
My conclusion? Most men–at least most straight, cisgender men, who are both my sample population and most of the ones whining that Carol is a “villain”–are perfectly fine with, and desensitized to, media where men do violence to women (horror movies), or men do violence to men (horror and action movies). They’re even sort of fine when women do violence to women (“ooooo cat fight!”).
But they get intensely uncomfortable when women are depicted doing any kind of violence to men, especially in films that tilt the balance of power to the other side of the m/f gender binary beyond a single moment or scene.
So woman as flesh-eating monster with men as her preferred cuisine? Woman who responds to unwanted sexual contact by biting it off? Woman who frames her cheating husband for murder? Woman whose response to harassment–behavior that many of the loudest whiners know is both creepy and reflective of their own thoughts/actions–is to break something?
Too scary. Unacceptable. Disturbing. These men hate being presented with the idea, even in fiction, that their position of power is socially constructed, that it could easily be flipped the other way. It terrifies them.
In feeling that terror, they experience a tiny modicum of what living, existing, moving, being perceived as a woman in the world is like.
And they flinch every time.
Here have a newspaper comic from 1993
By the way- that scene from Captain Marvel where Carol breaks the guy’s wrist?
The men got so angry about it that Disney removed it from the version that’s up on Disney+.
I remember watching it in theaters… every woman and non-cis-dude in that theater fucking CHEERED when she did it. And there were several men that screamed or shouted in horror. There were at least three men in my immediate vicinity who tried to start fights with their dates about “how you could possibly find that good”.
One dude wouldn’t shut up, and his girlfriend told him to be quiet so she could watch the movie. He said, “you’re not watching this garbage” and grabbed her hand to pull her up and leave.
I will never forget what happened next-
She looked scared for a second, started to reach for her purse, then looked at the movie screen… and it was like I saw a whole change come over her. She set her jaw, squared her shoulders, and punched him in the face.
He was so shocked he didn’t respond for a minute, but by this time several people were watching and someone had gotten a couple ushers. She ended up telling them that she did hit him, but he grabbed her first (which several of us backed up, having seen it). She told him he had until the movie was finished to get whatever of his was at her apartment, then she was throwing it away.
…the real reason so many men fight tooth and nail against this being shown to us, is not just that it frightens them.
It’s also that it gives us the strength to fight back.
By the way, here’s a link to that scene.
Michael Fassbender as Erik Lehnsherr X-MEN: FIRST CLASS (2011)
Dragon Age: The Veilguard | ▶ dev. Bioware
Imagine spending all your energy being cool and mysterious 24/7.
What an idiot have I mentioned I love him?
Idea came from a cool post @nouverx made about Alastor’s possible sleeping habits. 💕
fucking hate it when the stuff everybody says "actually works" does actually work.
hate exercising and realizing i've let go of a lot of anxiety and anger because i've overturned my fight-or-flight response.
hate eating right and eating enough and eating 3 times a day and realizing i'm less anxious and i have more energy
hate journaling in my stupid notebook with my stupid bic ballpoint and realizing that i've actually started healing about something once i'm able to externalize it
hate forgiving myself hate complimenting myself more often hate treating myself with kindness hate taking a gratitude inventory hate having patience hate talking to myself gently
hate turning my little face up to the sun and taking deep breaths and looking at nature and grounding myself and realizing that i feel less burdened and more hopeful, more actually-here, that i am able to see the good sides of myself more clearly, that i am able to see not only how far i have to grow - but also how much growth i have already done & how much of my life i truly fill with light and laughter and love
horrible horrible horrible. hate it but i'm gonna do it tho
Oh to be a beloved spinster in a small town with total fiscal independence, solving mysteries because she's a nosy bitch
The ocean yearns for billionaire blood
my favorite thing about this post is all the people who chose to use the default icon defending themselves in the notes like no stop it just put a picture up
Loving this energy
*wipes tear* they learn tumblr culture so fast . . . the spite . . . the malicious compliance of it all . . . I'm so proud