I didn’t take my ex back, now she’s accusing me of the unthinkable
DEAR DEIDRE: When my ex-girlfriend realised I didn’t want her back, she accused me of rape.
Two years later, the case has been thrown out, but my life is in ruins. I’ve lost everything and I want justice.
I’m 36 and my ex is 32. We were in a relationship for five years.
While we were together, she was emotionally abusive, and she also cheated on me several times.
She was also very unstable and would threaten to hurt herself if I left her.
In the end, I couldn’t deal with it any more. I packed my bags and moved out.
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She begged me to get back with her and in the end, I blocked her.
In the meantime, I moved on with my life and met a lovely woman.
Two months after I’d blocked my ex, the police turned up at my door accusing me of rape.
It broke me. Although the charges were eventually dropped because there wasn’t enough evidence, I lost my job and my new girlfriend ended our relationship.
I want to take legal action against my ex for the nightmare she has put me through.
It feels so unfair that she’s not been punished.
What can I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your life has been devastated by this cruel false accusation and even though the charges have been dropped, you don’t feel justice has been served.
It’s possible that you can take legal action against your ex and even bring criminal charges against her.
Contact FASO, who can advise you about this (false-allegations.org.uk, tel: 03335 779377). They will also offer you emotional support.
You may also want to think about having counselling to help you get over what has happened and to learn to trust again.