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My toxic boyfriend, his other women and how we exposed him

British writer Chimene Suleyman was devastated when her comedian partner left her with no explanation. Then she discovered an Instagram post from one of his exes and his staggering secret life began to unravel

Chimene Suleyman, 40. “It was a car crash unfolding in front of our eyes. He was falling apart and, frankly, it was wonderful”
Chimene Suleyman, 40. “It was a car crash unfolding in front of our eyes. He was falling apart and, frankly, it was wonderful”
EVA PENTEL FOR THE TIMES MAGAZINE. STYLING: HANNAH ROGERS
The Times

I did not want an abortion. Nor did I want a child. The doctor asked if I was sure, and in the absence of knowing how to say no, I nodded. She asked if I was alone. No, I told her, my partner was in the waiting room. I read his messages on my phone — of how we’d get through this, that we’d be home soon, eat ice cream and watch re-runs of shows, and that he had only gone to find the bathroom, and I should stay near the receptionist and wait for him.

But later, as the waiting room emptied, as a young woman tapped the keyboard of her computer with perfectly pointed nails, I realised he was gone. He was gone